Never thought that I'd find myself doing tequila shots in an orange grove, in Kalamata, with my 84 year old Uncle. But there I was, dusting the shoulders of the bottle, a long forgotten gift, while my Theo (Uncle) fetched the lemon and salt.
"Να ηρεμησεις" (Na ee-remisis), To calm yourself, and then you'll tell me what happened on the Mountain" he said while he cracked the seal of the 35 year old bottle and I wondered if tequila ages well. "Kοιτάξτε εδώ, θείο" (Key-taxte edo, Theo) "Look here, Uncle, let me show you how the Mexican's do it." He was playful and eager. He mirrored my image, with a grin on his face, as he licked the salt, took the shot and sucked the lemon. He chuckled after and sat forward to pour us both another. I love him.
He would have been an awesome father. He and his wife were never able to have children. And why is it that the people who have the best dispositions for children often are the ones that end up childless? A cruel puzzle the universe imposes.
Theo Yianni (John) is my mother's second eldest brother. Pericles, the eldest of six children from the Parthenios family died 5 years ago. A gentle soul with a loving heart, shockingly handsome and fiercely patriotic, also remained childless.
They both fawned over me when I'd visit and lived the Greek expression that they modified, " το παιδί της αδελφής μου είναι δύο φορές παιδί μου". "The child of my sister is twice my child". As a young girl, I never felt more loved and cared for and cherished. And I most certainly returned their affections. We were three peas in a pod...now only two.
There is no doubt that Theo Yianni has mellowed over the years, but his opinions and loyalty is unwavering. He may be 84 but he stands tall and straight with no stagger in his gait. He has the thickest mass of white wavy hair and the laugh of a young man going on an adventure.
He said to me, "that while your father and I tolerated each other, this Verga house he built was really a gift to me. He made a mess of it and who else would come and try to fix it...but you, my Katerina. I pray that Boufeas takes forever to finish it."
My eyes swell and I feel so comforted and protected by those words. And yes, he is the only one that calls me Katerina, my third name, because he simply likes it best.
After the third round of tequila shots, between laughter and tears, he presses me to reveal what exactly happened on the Mountain. "It's like you've seen a ghost or a monster!" I felt like such a child as he held my face and pleaded with his eyes for answers. I went to my dad's Horio, his village and Theo Yianni was right, I encountered a red-headed monster.
I had an afternoon suddenly available to me. I was supposed to be in Athens shopping for a kitchen, but it didn't turn out that way, regretfully. But I was excited when I told Theo Yianni that I'll be heading up the Mountain for a drive and to visit the grave of my dad's brother Nikita. The drive up the Taygetos was joyful and lighthearted and I relished all the familiar twists and hairpin turns that it has to offer.
But the afternoon turned tragic, once I encountered her...my father's doppelganger. I felt like I was 12 years old, vulnerable and small. As she hollered and insulted me just like my father did. She made up bizarre situations in her head about how poorly she is treated by the family and how I caused my father's cancer and what I'm doing to the Verga house is scandalous and that the names of my children are disgraceful. WTF. She has turned into him...perhaps she has always been like that. And I turned into jelly as her expressions and words and glances and hand gestures morphed into my father. It was as if he was standing right there. I froze in horror. And then ran from her. And while doing so I broke the heels of my shoes.
To steal an expression from a close friend, "I pressed the delete button" about a thousand times as I was driving down the mountain. My father's sister has now been...deleted.
Theo Yianni was empathetic and had a rebuttal for all the nasty comments she made. But he asked a very sage, very pointed question, "You are no stranger to this kind of verbal attack, you are an exceptionally strong, confident woman....tell me why you are trembling? You know none of what she said is true, what revelation have you had?" And there it was, the answer, it just tripped off my tongue, like its been waiting there on its mark for the starter pistol. "I'm afraid I'll turn into them...him! Will I?"
He sat back and while I waited for his response, I felt relieved. The unspoken was spoken. I know that I am related to them, but how can I possibly be? I feel so different, I feel most times like I don't belong. I looked up at the orange trees with its boughs full of fruit and thought, can the apple fall far from the tree? Or in this case, the orange? lol.
Theo Yianni has never said an unkind word about my father, ever. So when he offered his answer it was the classiest most respectful response and a little shocking. "You are like him. You have skillfully pick the best parts of your father and that is what makes you. And you have taken the best parts of your mother, your sweet nature...its what every parent hopes for." "Now, let's go see your scandalous house, it always makes you happy!"
Father of the year, I say...or Lifetime. Some are just born with it.
Earlier that day, the window and doors arrived from Athens and likely they had been installed. I was aching to see it. There was about two hours left of sunlight to an already long and eventful day. And it seems that whenever I come to Greece, I have the most...enlightening experiences. lol.
We drove silently up the winding road to the Verga house. I welcomed the calmness that driving provides me and the security of my Theo next to me. As we pulled up to the house and parked we both just sat there for a moment and stared at it. It was magnificent. He held my hand and said, "It has your energy and spirit." And with those words, the events of the day just disappeared.
We didn't except to find anyone working at the house so late in the day and was surprised when the foreman, Dimitri, greeted us at the door. "You have windows and doors. What do you think?", he asked proudly. "It's finally a real house", I said. And then he reached into his pocked and held something out to me and rather coyly asked, "would you like the key to your house?" I beamed at Dimitri and held out my hand.
Theo Yianni was grinning from ear to ear, as I just held the key by its end to examine its uniqueness. "Kαλοριζικο, Katerina mou" (Kaloriziko, good-root or luck my Katerina). I was silent. "Well, I'm off" said the foreman, "be sure to lock the door when you're done." Stunned, I thanked him and only wished that Peter Boufeas was here to share in this delightful moment.
We toured the house and checked all the new windows and doors. There were a few minor errors, but I knew that Boufeas would take care of it in a New York minute. Besides we were both so delighted with the outcome and Theo Yianni was quite impressed with the quality and I was happy that he approved. I handed him the key. "You lock up the house for the first time Theo." His chest puffed up as he reached for the key.
As the key turned and clanked 6 times, I imagined shutting the door and dead-bolting the earlier events with the red-headed monster. I imagined dead-bolting out all the negative, toxic and unrelenting memories that this house once represented. The next time I come I will unlock the door and my children will run through it, clearing out any leftover unwanted ghosts, with their laughter and joie de vivre.
And I'm ok with where the apple has landed. It has fallen far enough away from the tree...this Verga house was built after all on a mountain side. LOL.
"Να ηρεμησεις" (Na ee-remisis), To calm yourself, and then you'll tell me what happened on the Mountain" he said while he cracked the seal of the 35 year old bottle and I wondered if tequila ages well. "Kοιτάξτε εδώ, θείο" (Key-taxte edo, Theo) "Look here, Uncle, let me show you how the Mexican's do it." He was playful and eager. He mirrored my image, with a grin on his face, as he licked the salt, took the shot and sucked the lemon. He chuckled after and sat forward to pour us both another. I love him. He would have been an awesome father. He and his wife were never able to have children. And why is it that the people who have the best dispositions for children often are the ones that end up childless? A cruel puzzle the universe imposes.
Theo Yianni (John) is my mother's second eldest brother. Pericles, the eldest of six children from the Parthenios family died 5 years ago. A gentle soul with a loving heart, shockingly handsome and fiercely patriotic, also remained childless.
They both fawned over me when I'd visit and lived the Greek expression that they modified, " το παιδί της αδελφής μου είναι δύο φορές παιδί μου". "The child of my sister is twice my child". As a young girl, I never felt more loved and cared for and cherished. And I most certainly returned their affections. We were three peas in a pod...now only two.
There is no doubt that Theo Yianni has mellowed over the years, but his opinions and loyalty is unwavering. He may be 84 but he stands tall and straight with no stagger in his gait. He has the thickest mass of white wavy hair and the laugh of a young man going on an adventure.
He said to me, "that while your father and I tolerated each other, this Verga house he built was really a gift to me. He made a mess of it and who else would come and try to fix it...but you, my Katerina. I pray that Boufeas takes forever to finish it."
My eyes swell and I feel so comforted and protected by those words. And yes, he is the only one that calls me Katerina, my third name, because he simply likes it best.
After the third round of tequila shots, between laughter and tears, he presses me to reveal what exactly happened on the Mountain. "It's like you've seen a ghost or a monster!" I felt like such a child as he held my face and pleaded with his eyes for answers. I went to my dad's Horio, his village and Theo Yianni was right, I encountered a red-headed monster.
I had an afternoon suddenly available to me. I was supposed to be in Athens shopping for a kitchen, but it didn't turn out that way, regretfully. But I was excited when I told Theo Yianni that I'll be heading up the Mountain for a drive and to visit the grave of my dad's brother Nikita. The drive up the Taygetos was joyful and lighthearted and I relished all the familiar twists and hairpin turns that it has to offer. But the afternoon turned tragic, once I encountered her...my father's doppelganger. I felt like I was 12 years old, vulnerable and small. As she hollered and insulted me just like my father did. She made up bizarre situations in her head about how poorly she is treated by the family and how I caused my father's cancer and what I'm doing to the Verga house is scandalous and that the names of my children are disgraceful. WTF. She has turned into him...perhaps she has always been like that. And I turned into jelly as her expressions and words and glances and hand gestures morphed into my father. It was as if he was standing right there. I froze in horror. And then ran from her. And while doing so I broke the heels of my shoes.
To steal an expression from a close friend, "I pressed the delete button" about a thousand times as I was driving down the mountain. My father's sister has now been...deleted.
Theo Yianni was empathetic and had a rebuttal for all the nasty comments she made. But he asked a very sage, very pointed question, "You are no stranger to this kind of verbal attack, you are an exceptionally strong, confident woman....tell me why you are trembling? You know none of what she said is true, what revelation have you had?" And there it was, the answer, it just tripped off my tongue, like its been waiting there on its mark for the starter pistol. "I'm afraid I'll turn into them...him! Will I?"
He sat back and while I waited for his response, I felt relieved. The unspoken was spoken. I know that I am related to them, but how can I possibly be? I feel so different, I feel most times like I don't belong. I looked up at the orange trees with its boughs full of fruit and thought, can the apple fall far from the tree? Or in this case, the orange? lol.
Theo Yianni has never said an unkind word about my father, ever. So when he offered his answer it was the classiest most respectful response and a little shocking. "You are like him. You have skillfully pick the best parts of your father and that is what makes you. And you have taken the best parts of your mother, your sweet nature...its what every parent hopes for." "Now, let's go see your scandalous house, it always makes you happy!"
Father of the year, I say...or Lifetime. Some are just born with it.
Earlier that day, the window and doors arrived from Athens and likely they had been installed. I was aching to see it. There was about two hours left of sunlight to an already long and eventful day. And it seems that whenever I come to Greece, I have the most...enlightening experiences. lol. We drove silently up the winding road to the Verga house. I welcomed the calmness that driving provides me and the security of my Theo next to me. As we pulled up to the house and parked we both just sat there for a moment and stared at it. It was magnificent. He held my hand and said, "It has your energy and spirit." And with those words, the events of the day just disappeared.
We didn't except to find anyone working at the house so late in the day and was surprised when the foreman, Dimitri, greeted us at the door. "You have windows and doors. What do you think?", he asked proudly. "It's finally a real house", I said. And then he reached into his pocked and held something out to me and rather coyly asked, "would you like the key to your house?" I beamed at Dimitri and held out my hand.
Theo Yianni was grinning from ear to ear, as I just held the key by its end to examine its uniqueness. "Kαλοριζικο, Katerina mou" (Kaloriziko, good-root or luck my Katerina). I was silent. "Well, I'm off" said the foreman, "be sure to lock the door when you're done." Stunned, I thanked him and only wished that Peter Boufeas was here to share in this delightful moment. We toured the house and checked all the new windows and doors. There were a few minor errors, but I knew that Boufeas would take care of it in a New York minute. Besides we were both so delighted with the outcome and Theo Yianni was quite impressed with the quality and I was happy that he approved. I handed him the key. "You lock up the house for the first time Theo." His chest puffed up as he reached for the key.
And I'm ok with where the apple has landed. It has fallen far enough away from the tree...this Verga house was built after all on a mountain side. LOL.
